Secrets About Guys (that shouldn’t be
secret) was born out of enthusiastic
response from girls – and guys – to an article, “8
Secrets About Guys (that shouldn’t be secret,” which
Grace submitted in January, 2001, to BRIO,
a Focus on the Family publication for teen girls.
It was first posted on their website in May, 2002.
The volume of feedback they received revealed it “struck
a chord” so they decided to publish it in their May, 2003,
issues of BRIO and BRIO & BEYOND and also requested a
follow-up piece detailing more
secrets about guys (see Articles) for their August, 2003 issues.
Grace describes what happened next.
“I call BRIO’s editor, Susie
Shellenberger, God’s angel to me.
For a couple of years, I had been thinking about writing a
book on the topic. One
morning I prayed very specifically, asking the Lord to confirm if
this idea was really from Him.
That afternoon I received an email from Susie saying they
were receiving a lot of positive Feedback
Secrets About Guys.”
“She encouraged me to consider expanding
the points in my first and follow-up articles and turning them
into a manuscript. Along
with her message, Susie included a dozen of the emails they had
received from readers responding to the first article.
Half of them were from guys
who expressed relief and gratitude that this info was getting
What motivated Grace to write about guys in the
“Throughout the years of raising our three sons, I
couldn’t help but notice how girls related to them and their
friends. I also heard
and saw various guys’ reactions to girls and realized girls were
making mistakes, sabotaging potential friendships with them.
Remembering all too well my own teen years, I felt girls
deserved to know what trips them up when interacting with guys.
I wanted to give them tips which I wish someone had taught
my sons became teens, they began bragging to their friends about
my cooking. This
resulted in girls approaching me for cooking lessons!
I began mentoring a small group.
Each time we met, I gave an abbreviated lesson on
homemaking and then shared tips on food preparation.
By far their favorite session was one in which I gave them
inside tips about how and what guys really think. Because of
their enthusiasm, I suspected other girls would be interested too.
And that prompted my articles for BRIO!"